My mum died of cancer aged 61 last year and this year my dad was diagnosed with cancer, too. I hate that we have these things in common but I find the recognition you write about in your last paragraph in each of your newsletters, and it means a great deal. Thank you for sharing your words.
Really powerful writing on how anniversaries create their own gravitational field around grief. That line about trying to do the right thing but hurting each other anyway captures something so fundamental about family dynamics under pressure. What gets me is how rituals, even when they feel perfomatory, can hold space for grief that otherwise has nowhere to go.
I will be lighting you a few candles between now and next Christmas Jennifer XXOO
My mum died of cancer aged 61 last year and this year my dad was diagnosed with cancer, too. I hate that we have these things in common but I find the recognition you write about in your last paragraph in each of your newsletters, and it means a great deal. Thank you for sharing your words.
So sorry to hear this, Karys - it’s a shitty club to be part of. Sending you love and solidarity 🤍
Thank you for sharing your beautiful words and I'm sorry to hear this month is filled with so many sad anniversaries. Sending you hugs.
this was a beautiful piece. thank you so much for sharing. your thoughts are always so lucid and insightful and moving.
Really powerful writing on how anniversaries create their own gravitational field around grief. That line about trying to do the right thing but hurting each other anyway captures something so fundamental about family dynamics under pressure. What gets me is how rituals, even when they feel perfomatory, can hold space for grief that otherwise has nowhere to go.
Your writing is so beautiful, I love reading your work. I hope you can have some lovely moments at such a difficult time of year ❤️